The danger of finding your identity in your job title

The danger of finding your identity in your job title

In Blog by Kent Evans / October 25, 2016

I have been fired twice in my career. I’ll admit, I probably deserved at least one of those boots (maybe both of them, come to think of it). I learned the hard way that I cannot place my entire identity in my job title or employer’s good name.

 

However, don’t we as men (and women) struggle with this? I mean, if you meet someone at your child’s music recital, shortly after you swap names, what do you both ask? “So, Byron, what do you do?” And, we understand in our culture, this means, “What is your job?”

 

We are sending the signal – and not a completely misleading one, if we are honest – that the second most important thing about a man is how he earns a living. I recognize the fact that this is a way of building relational bridges. We aren’t always connecting personal relevance too directly with this. Even so, I think many men believe their total reason for existence washes over them as they walk through the office door at 8am every Monday.

 

Allowing our identity to be driven by our careers is a dangerous game. Why? As noted above, that identity is not always fully within our control. It can be stolen from us quicker than we can say, “Can I get a box to pack my stuff?” The thief might be a vindictive boss, unpredictable market forces or a new parent company that just needs to go in “another direction.”

 

Placing our personal identity into our chosen line of work is like leaning back in a chair. We look cool right up to the moment someone kicks the legs out from under us.

 

Even for those who have been appointed by God to a task for a season or a lifetime, that calling is not the sum total of your worth as a human being. Even if your job aligns to your gifts, passions, or a specific call of God, there is still much more to who you are than where your direct deposits come from.

 

If you’re like many men, when you think of who you are, you don’t have a person in mind; you have a role. Men, have we replaced our spiritual identity in Christ with our job title? Can we be fully known after a careful review of our curriculum vitae? Have we become whoever LinkedIn says we are?

 

If this is you, let me encourage you: stop trading down! What you “do” does not equal “who” you are. You matter more to God – and your wife, children, relatives and friends – than just because of the office you occupy or documents you’re authorized to sign.

 

I think men who want to be an intentional father should reread that last sentence. We don't want to pass on a legacy to our children of career worship. Men (especially) must be absolutely sure we’re making this distinction, because this distinction will be the making of us and our families.

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This post is an excerpt from my book Wise Guys: Unlocking Hidden Wisdom From the Men Around You.

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